Why Are You Pissed Off?, questions from the bbc Options

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http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/couples/comm_avoid.shtml

Your feelings

1. Are you overreacting because you're tired and stressed?
1 - no, im not tired or stressed, im anxious. anxiety sucks.
2. Could the anger you feel be at someone or something else?
2 - yes, because some people are just plain stupid
3. Are you hormonal at the moment and feeling unusually irritable or sensitive?
3 - no, i dont have hormones. im on hormone suppressants. maybe thats why im irritable.
4. Is your mood being affected by illness?
4 - yes, i have cancer. i think cancer affects everyone's moods.


Your partner's feelings

1. Could your partner be overreacting because they're tired or stressed?
1 - i dont know, you'd have to ask him.
2. Do you know that they're currently feeling angry about something else?
2- again, ask him
3. Is your partner either struggling with health issues or being affected by hormonal changes?
3 - probably.


Your conscience

1. Are you feeling defensive about what your partner has said or done because you feel guilty?
1 - i dont fight with my partner. i fight with everyone. i dont feel guilty. but i do fight over what other people say. some people just plain suck.
2. Could you be feeling defensive because you want to avoid having to say you're sorry?
2 - im always defensive, usually for good reason... but i do say im sorry (and mean it) when i do something i truly regret
3. Are you bearing a grudge against your partner for something you need to let go of?
3 - no.
4. If you're going to raise an issue, are you sure this is the main thing that's bothering you? (See What are you really arguing about?)
4 - last time i did that, something bad happened. and yes, it was the main thing that was bothering me (all pain and illness aside). i was truly bothered by the situation. i said something about it. everything went to hell from there.
5. If you're going to raise an issue, are you sure it's worth risking a potential argument?
5 - i would hope so. but sometimes im wrong. (yeah, you read that right... SOMETIMES IM WRONG!)
6. If you're going to raise this issue, are you using the guidelines in Productive arguing?
6 - i have no idea what the fuck that is, but ok...